Recognising that your behaviour may be impacting others negatively is an important first step to changing it.

Sometimes people do not realise that the behaviour they are using is abusive, or do not intend to act abusively, but this does not make it okay and does not lessen the impact on others.

You may find it useful to read about some of the behaviours that describe: 
If you do recognise some of these behaviours in yourself, support is available.

University Support for Students
  • Campus Safety Team. Campus Safety  are available 24/7 365 days a year and are a first point of call, contactable on (01904) 32 4444, or (01904) 32 3333 in an emergency.
  • Seek support through your College Team, who can provide a listening ear and may be able to signpost you to appropriate services. The Open Door Team can provide specialist mental health support if you feel the need. You can also read more about support for your mental wellbeing.
  • Seek advice through the Student Hub, the first point of contact for areas relating to student support and advice. They will be able to signpost you to services suitable to your needs. 

Other sources of support
  • +Choices - An accredited Domestic Abuse Perpetrator Programme. The service is available for anyone aged 16 and over, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, who wishes to voluntarily address their abusive behaviour. The service supports clients to recognise and take accountability for abusive behaviours, understand why they abuse, and learn skills to stop using abusive behaviours.
  • Respect. A confidential and anonymous helpline for anyone concerned about their violence and/or abuse towards a partner or ex-partner. Tel: 0808 802 4040 (open Monday – Friday, 9am – 5pm). A The webchat service is available Tuesdays and Thursdays 10am-4pm
  • Samaritans. Talk to the Samaritans any time you like, in your own way, and off the record – about whatever’s getting to you. Tel: 116 123 (24 hours)


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